Aging Without Apology: Author Nina Collins on Why Her Facebook Group for Women of a Certain Age Is Feminist AF

Hormonal changes. Marital problems and infidelity. Dating after divorce. Finding sensuality in your post-multiple-pregnancy, middle-aged physique. Having regrets about taking a career break to raise kids. Cosmetic procedures. These are things that we rarely talk about in public or even privately with our friends, but we need to talk about it with someone. The question is, who?

In 2015, author Nina Collins created a secret Facebook group. It was a place where she could seek the advice of her friends who had already experienced perimenopause and other physical changes related to aging. Friends invited friends and now the group, called “What Would Virginia Woolf Do?” (WWVD) has grown to a 17,000 member community in which women share--and sometimes overshare--the challenges and fears and triumphs of life over 40.

Clearly Nina Collins has broken the ice for a conversation that women over 40 have been desperate to have: one in which we confront our shame, embrace our imperfections, honor what makes us unique, and benefit from our collective wisdom so that we can lift each other up.

Sounds like feminism to me.

Nina has captured the essence of this group and her own reflections on “aging” in her new book, "What Would Virginia Woolf Do? And Other Questions I Ask Myself As I Attempt To Age Without Apology." Listen to our conversation here on Inflection Point.

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Will Girls Ever Feel Like They’re Enough As They Are? Rachel Simmons, Co-Founder of Girls Leadership

For many girls today, the relentless pursuit of accomplishment is fueled by harsh self-criticism and an acute fear of failure. Rachel Simmons has been researching young women for two decades, and her research plainly shows that girl competence does not equal girl confidence—nor does it equal happiness, resilience, or self-worth. As an educator and the author of Enough As She Is: How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standards of Success to Live Healthy, Happy and Fulfilling Lives, Rachel teaches girls and women skills to build their resilience, amplify their voices, and own their courage so that they—and their relationships—live with integrity and health.

Want to read more about Rachel? Check out my piece in Salon and on Medium.

Rachel Simmons (Credit: Phoebe Jones)

Rachel Simmons (Credit: Phoebe Jones)

Morgan Shanahan, BuzzFeed Parents

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Morgan Shanahan, a founding editor of BuzzFeed Parents makes visitors laugh daily about parenting challenges, yet she has suffered from maternal mental illness for most of her child's life. She tells us this is the "number one complication of pregnancy" and shares her story to help others who may be experiencing the same--as well as explains how this has helped her create some of the funniest content on the parenting internet. 

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MORGAN SHANAHAN

Nancy Lublin, Founder of Crisis Text Line

We have come to rely on our smartphones so much that we consider them an extension of ourselves. So it's no surprise that when a crisis happens, it's the first place we might turn to ask for help. This March, the Journal of the American Medical Association published a study that found that when it comes to trauma, these systems responded “inconsistently and incompletely.” And while making a call to a crisis help line, or 911 are certainly options--there's one more possibility--texting. 

Nancy Lublin founded Crisis Text Line to support people in crisis through texting the word "start" to 741 741. They've processed over 14 million messages to date. Lublin also founded Dress for Success, and was CEO of the teen volunteer organization Do Something. 

Listen to the interview at the link above, or read the edited & condensed interview on Fortune.com

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NANCY LUBLIN