Aging Without Apology: Author Nina Collins on Why Her Facebook Group for Women of a Certain Age Is Feminist AF

Hormonal changes. Marital problems and infidelity. Dating after divorce. Finding sensuality in your post-multiple-pregnancy, middle-aged physique. Having regrets about taking a career break to raise kids. Cosmetic procedures. These are things that we rarely talk about in public or even privately with our friends, but we need to talk about it with someone. The question is, who?

In 2015, author Nina Collins created a secret Facebook group. It was a place where she could seek the advice of her friends who had already experienced perimenopause and other physical changes related to aging. Friends invited friends and now the group, called “What Would Virginia Woolf Do?” (WWVD) has grown to a 17,000 member community in which women share--and sometimes overshare--the challenges and fears and triumphs of life over 40.

Clearly Nina Collins has broken the ice for a conversation that women over 40 have been desperate to have: one in which we confront our shame, embrace our imperfections, honor what makes us unique, and benefit from our collective wisdom so that we can lift each other up.

Sounds like feminism to me.

Nina has captured the essence of this group and her own reflections on “aging” in her new book, "What Would Virginia Woolf Do? And Other Questions I Ask Myself As I Attempt To Age Without Apology." Listen to our conversation here on Inflection Point.

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How To Take Your Reproductive Destiny In Your Own Hands - Author Rachel Lehmann-Haupt

Author and founder of The ART and Science of Family, Rachel Lehmann-Haupt spent years writing about reproductive technology, but always assumed she’d have a child the old-fashioned way. Then her path led her to taking her reproductive destiny into her own hands. Hear our conversation about her adventures in procreation that led her to writing her book, In Her Own Sweet Time: Egg Freezing and the New Frontiers of Family--and what reproductive tech means for the feminist movement

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Amy Whitaker, author of "Art Thinking"

How do we make space for innovation in our personal and professional lives? Move from a productivity-based metric to one that makes room for other measures of success. Amy Whitaker has written the book "Art Thinking. How to carve out creative space in a world of schedules, budgets and bosses." She tells us how a major shift in her personal life led her from business school to art school--and ultimately to write this book. 

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Jen Glantz, Bridesmaid For Hire

Jen Glantz attended so many weddings, she went into debt, then wrote a book about it called 'All My Friends are Engaged.' On a whim, Jen thought she might make a little money out of attending weddings and posted an ad on craigslist offering her services as a bridesmaid. She tells me she got 100s of responses, leading her to turn it into a full-time business. I invited her to tell us about her experience starting a business from scratch with no business experience, what it takes to get a book published, and what she is observing about the modern relationship from inside the wedding planning process. Listen to our conversation on iTunes or NPR One.

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